What does it mean to be sustainable? Does this mean that one has to be extreme? Or green as they say? When I hear the word green these days, I just want to run away and hide. As a famous frog once said “It’s not easy been green”. He was right. Plus, the notion of green has been bantered around so much, it’s almost become redundant. Anyhow, in today’s world we are faced with a barrage of media, telling us how to act and what to think, what we need and want. It’s hard to stay conscious all of the time, especially when our lives are so busy.
What do I mean by staying conscious anyway?
For me, conscious means remaining alert to the ebb and flow of societies politics, belief systems, practices, moods, our own bodies and energy levels, whatever it may be, which affect the planet and our own health and happiness collectively and individually – wow, that sounds like hard work!
The media is a great example of where we might loose our consciousness. If you watch the news twice a day for a week, you might find yourself feeling a little down and overwhelmed. The fact is that the news isn’t really a true picture of the state of the world. It reports catastrophe and horror. The picture is skewed. In countries such as China, Burma, Iran for example, the government know this fact and use it to their advantage. It’s called propaganda. We are all fed propaganda through the media, being conscious is being aware that you can make choices about what to listen to, what to take on and what to dismiss.
Being conscious is about questioning and making informed choices. Sometimes this is hard to do, when your tired and bombarded with information. A great example of what I think is a social expectation, projected by the media, is the distressing amount of people who feel they need to purchase a new overpriced and unaffordable car. We are told that the car is a status symbol. So people go out get themselves into terrible debt through borrowing money for a car that they can’t afford. A consumer society as they say. There are so many things we think we need. Pat and I see this when we go to our favorite camping spot every Xmas. The same families come with all the mod cons, that’s fine, but new ones every year! Brand new boats, fishing gear, stoves, tents, campervans….. Their credit cards must get a good workout! They have to work harder to afford it all, they spend less time with their kids because they are working or tired from working to pay off their debts. Then all the stuff they have purchased sits in the garage because they don’t have time to use it. Of course I’m making huge generalisations here, but I’m just trying to paint a bit of a picture.
Being sustainable is about knowing what our needs really are (individually, collectively and environmentally), and understanding the impact of the external social, cultural and economic pressures which are placed on us, and how these affect our decisions.
I can hear you all saying out there, ‘yeah I know this, and it’s obvious’. But when was the last time you went a week without your daily TV fix? I get really surprised when I talk to groups of women in my work who say they hardly ever sit at the table with their family and eat a meal. Doing stuff like this is the demonstration of a thought process ending in a change of habit, which enhances the quality of one’s life.
‘Bloody greenie’ I hear you say, ‘easy for her to say..’, but it’s not. I get it wrong all the time. We have weeks of no TV, but it’s not off at other times (this will change again once we are on the farm, as there will be very little electricity). If I’m not on the ball every day when I get home from work, my daughter sits on the computer playing endless virtual games where she buys virtual horses with virtual money and feeds them virtual food! The last thing I want to do when I get home from work is be on the ball! What I really want to do is pour myself a rather large scotch and soak in the bath with the bathroom door locked. Not a bad option, and often executed with great joy I might add.
However, we do eat together and I couldn’t imagine life without this practice. This is the time when our family unit connects. Connection is a great example of sustainable practice. It sustains our family, because we get an opportunity to show interest in each other and feel validated (very important for children especially). Feeling validated is an essential ingredient for good mental health, and it needs to happen on a daily basis for us to sustain our sense of self or identity. For us, if we don’t sit down at least once a day we feel disconnected, like ships in the night.
You don’t have to be an extremist to make sustainable changes in your life. Just make changes where you can. One little change is better than none. Having a sustainable lifestyle isn’t just about the environment. It’s about being in relationship with others and ourselves. It’s about enjoying our work and play, creating opportunities to be social and entertaining ourselves in a way that doesn’t cost the world. Or even, learning the art of relaxation, god forbid!
We need to start thinking about how we spend out time and how we use or conserve our energy. Please note, when I talk about energy (in the general sense) I mean our physical and mental resources, money, elements such as water, wind or energy, food, or resources such as oil, gas, timber etc. These are all examples of energy.
A guy said to me the other day, ‘My 7 year old son is moving to the south coast. It’s a great opportunity for him, there’s nothing to do in the Mountains’. I was gob smacked! He’s 7 for goodness sake! Take him for a bushwalk, there are hundreds of them! Take him to the park with a soccer ball and kick it around (the soccer ball not the boy)! Plant a tree and teach him about how things grow? I know that this father’s idea of entertaining his child usually involves spending money. In fact, how much money is spent is used as a measuring stick for the level of quality and success of an activity, something that doesn’t always add up mind you. This is not an unusual story. Oh dear I could go on and on! In fact I think I did, poor man… Poor man….

I think they should bring back Norm. Remember him? Life be in it!
PS> I'm very aware that not everyone has the capacity to sit down to dinner with their families on a regular basis for whatever reason. Our busy lives get in the way of many things, which are good for us. It's just an example of what my family does. There are lots of ways to connect. It's a matter of finding out what works for you. xo